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Too Many Guys Are Relying On The Pull Out Method, So Make Sure Your Guy Wraps It Up

Too Many Guys Are Relying On The Pull Out Method, So Make Sure Your Guy Wraps It Up

Ah, the pull out method, also known as the form of contraception that frat dude you used to hook up with in college used to try to convince you to do in lieu of condoms because those just “don’t feel good.”

If you haven’t hooked up with said dude and haven’t heard of it, the method is pretty self-explanatory. It’s when the dude pulls out before ejaculating during penetrative intercourse, as a way to prevent pregnancy, and it’s growing more and more in popularity. But have you ever wondered to yourself, “Should I use the pull out method?” Well, the simple answer is no, you probably shouldn’t.

But that isn’t stopping people from giving it a shot. In addition to a study released earlier this year, which found teens have been relying on the pull out method more than ever, a newer study found single adult men are also relying pretty heavily on the less-than-reliable form of contraception. The present study, which surveyed 3,700 sexually active unmarried dudes, found that the number of unmarried American men who rely on the pull out method has almost doubled in the 13 years between 2002 and 2015.

Are you more of a hard numbers person? Let me run some by you. In 2002, only a mere 10 percent of unmarried men relied on the pull out method. That’s nothing when it comes to the whopping 19 percent who admitted to doing the same in 2015. Yep, for all you numbers people out there, that’s just one percentage shy of DOUBLE the men using the pull out method.

The study, published by the National Center for Health Statistics, found that overall use of male contraceptives has been increasing. So, that is some good news. But there’s a catch: While other forms of contraception, like condoms and vasectomy rates, have remained the same, the withdrawal method has still increased.

Of course, the increase in the other more reliable forms of male contraception is a step in the right direction in that these men are making an effort to practice safe sex. And of course, practicing the pull out method is better than completely foregoing any sort of contraceptive method whatsoever. Still, the pull out method is definitely not the most effective contraceptive choice.

In addition to having no way to protect you against STDs, the pull out method also leaves a lot of room for error. In fact, according to Planned Parenthood, 27 out of 100 women who use the pull out method get pregnant every year. That’s more than a quarter of women.

So, if there’s anything to remember from this information, it’s to use a condom. Please. I BEG YOU.

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6 in 10 of America’s Single Guys’ Take Responsibility’ for Contraception

6 in 10 of America’s Single Guys’ Take Responsibility’ for Contraception

From the HealthDay Reporter

About six in 10 sexually active single men in the United States are taking responsibility for birth control, government health officials say.

When they have sex, these unmarried males are using a condom (45 percent), vasectomy, “withdrawal,” or a combination, according to a new report released Thursday from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

For the study, the researchers surveyed about 3,700 unmarried and sexually active men, aged 15 to 44.

The researchers found that use of any male birth control method rose from about 52 percent in 2002 to more than 59 percent by 2011-2015.

Male-method contraception was highest (75 percent) among men who had never married, followed by formerly married men (55 percent) and men currently living with their partner (36 percent), said study lead author Kimberly Daniels.

Daniels is a statistician with the CDC’s National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS).

The proportion of guys relying on condoms or vasectomy hasn’t changed since 2002, but use of withdrawal before ejaculation has, Daniels said.

Reliance on pulling out nearly doubled, rising from about 10 percent in 2002 to nearly 19 percent in 2011-2015, the study found.

Asked whether the CDC considers withdrawal a reliable form of contraception, Daniels said it is among the rubric of male methods. Yet as a family-planning tool, the CDC ranks withdrawal relatively poorly, more or less on par with condom use, and far below the effectiveness of the birth control pill for women.

Dr. J. Dennis Fortenberry, chief of adolescent medicine at Indiana University School of Medicine, said a “variety of things likely contribute to relatively high levels of [male contraceptive] use.”

Among them, he said, are comprehensive sex education programs, increased emphasis on communication with sexual partners, emphasis on men’s responsibility for contraception, and access to reproductive health services through means such as the Affordable Care Act (also known as Obamacare).

“The data speak against any return to abstinence-only education for younger men, or creation of access barriers to sexual and reproductive health for all people,” Fortenberry added.


Sexually transmitted disease without symptoms? Everything you need to know about it

Sexually transmitted disease without symptoms? Everything you need to know about it

It has no apparent signs until much later in its development

With no outward symptoms in the early stage, chlamydia remains one of the most common sexually transmitted STDs. This is because it is passed on to partners unknowingly through unprotected vaginal, anal or oral sex. This silent killer can lead to serious or permanent damage to a woman’s reproductive system.

If the infection remains untreated, it can spread to the uterus and fallopian tubes causing pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) which can cause permanent damage. This can lead to long-term pelvic paininfertility and ectopic pregnancy which is a life threatening condition.


  • SYMPTOMS:Chlamydia is caused by a bacterium called chlamydia trachomatis that is spread through incidental contact, sexually or orally.
  • Affecting both sexes, women can get chlamydia in the cervix, rectum or throat while men can get chlamydia in the urethra (inside the penis), rectum or throat as well.
  • Newborn babies can acquire chlamydia from an infected mother during childbirth and while it may not be common, one can get the infection in the eye through oral or genital contact with the eyes.
  • Those at the highest risk of infection are sexually active young adults especially women under the age of 25, women with multiple partners and gay men.
  • According to, infection rates are highest among younger women partly because their immature cervical cells are more vulnerable to infection.
  • One of the most common myths about chlamydia is that it cannot be cured. Not so. Antibiotics can be used to rid the body of this infection.

With no apparent signs until much later in its development, the following symptoms may become noticeable weeks after infection.

Men experience small amounts of clear or cloudy discharge from the tip of the penis, painful urination, burning and itching around the opening of the penis and albeit less common, pain and swelling in one or both testicles.

Women on the other hand experience abnormal vaginal discharge that may have an odor, bleeding between periods, painful periods, abdominal pain with fever, pain when having sex (dyspareunia), itching or burning in or around the vagina and pain when urinating. In some instances, the infection may spread to the fallopian tubes causing pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). The symptoms of PID include fever, severe pelvic pain, nausea and abnormal vaginal bleeding between periods.

When a person is infected in the anus, the main symptoms are discharge, pain and bleeding from that part of the body.

For those who may have contracted chlamydia orally, one may notice a sore throat, cough or fever.


Doctors use lab tests to determine whether one is infected or not. They may ask you for a urine sample to check for the presence of the bacteria or a vaginal swab in women, and at times a sample from the urethra in men. If one is suspected to have an infection in the throat, that is swabbed too.


Depending on the severity, the doctor will prescribe the recommended dosage of antibiotics which must be followed to the tee and one should refrain from sexual activity to avoid reinfection.

But good news is, the infection should clear up in about a week or so after treatment.

However, women with severe chlamydia may be put on pain medicine and intravenous antibiotics (medicine given through a vein).

Once treatment has commenced it is advisable to be re-tested after three months to be sure the infection is cured.


Risky behaviour and porn fuelling rise of STDs among teens?

Risky behaviour and porn fuelling rise of STDs among teens?

Risky behaviour and porn fuelling rise of STDs among teens?

Middle-class children typically view porn by the age of 12 and engage in their first sexual activity the following year, according to a study.

It found that the younger they began viewing sexually explicit images, the earlier they went on to engage in sexual activity.

Young women who regularly watched more porn than average were more likely to have higher numbers of sexual partners.

The research was carried out mainly on middle-class students from the University of Buckingham. A total of 42 women and 31 men aged 18 to 25 answered a questionnaire on their porn-viewing habits and sexual behaviour in the previous six months.

The study found that on average, those who had started viewing sexual imagery from the age of 12 onwards had their first sexual encounters the following year.

Sexually risky behaviour – including having multiple sexual partners and sex at a young age – is thought to be fuelling a rise in sexually transmitted diseases among teenagers and young adults aged 15 to 24.

The material used in the study included films, TV or pictures depicting actual or simulated pornographic scenes or nudity, as well as explicit adverts and music videos. Sexual activity was defined as including kissing and foreplay but stopping short of intercourse.

The youngest a respondent reported first looking at pornography was six.

The researchers said the age at which participants were first exposed to sexually explicit material predicted how likely they were to engage in sexual behaviour at a younger age for both men and women.

While women who actively sought out pornography had higher numbers of sexual partners, those who viewed sex scenes incidentally – such as in a TV show, film or music video – were not found to be more prone to risky sexual behaviour such as engaging in one-night stands or not using contraception.

Full intercourse happened on average by the age of 16 in the sample, although one respondent reported first having sex at 13.

As adults, the respondents had on average 12 sexual partners, with the highest number reported being 60. One respondent admitted having 48 one-night stands.

Watching porn frequently was not found to lead to a higher number of sexual partners for adult men.

The authors said that the age at exposure was a more significant factor than the quantity viewed in adulthood.

Elysia Walker and Dr Emily Doe, from the University of Buckingham, presented their findings yesterday at the annual conference of the British Psychological Society’s Division of Health Psychology.

Miss Walker said “this was a very middle-class sample”, adding that further research was necessary to see whether there was a similar link in different social classes.


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Safer sex on campus starts with you talking about sex

Safer sex on campus starts with you talking about sex

Helpful advice from Kat Nantz, Sexual Empowerment Coach

Many students will spend a good deal of time this year thinking about sex. Everyone has their own opinion on the matter and everyone must decide for themselves what kind of sexual activity, if any, they want to pursue. But all of us should learn to discuss sex frankly and honestly.

Talking dirty

“It takes time to learn new skills, and having/talking about sex is a skill — one that most of us were not taught!” said Kat Nantz, a local Sexual Empowerment Coach. Nantz offers workshops and sessions to help people “explore and deepen their relationship to personal power and sexual fulfillment.”

“The dominant cultural point of view about sexuality tells us that sex is dirty, private, and shameful,” said Nantz. “Most of the work that I do is around supporting folks in dismantling the toxic messaging we’ve received about sex so that people can begin to create a relationship with their sexuality that is empowering, fulfilling, and holistic.”

The first step is to figure out how sex actually works — and to dispel the myths that surround it.

“Knowledge is power,” said Nantz, “Get informed. Educate yourself about anatomy and how our bodies work.

Our culture puts a lot of emphasis on sex being performative and goal-oriented. Challenge this!

I encourage young people to explore a more expansive definition of sex, one that does not completely focus on penetration and orgasm as the end goal. Sex is about pleasure, discovery, connection, and consent!”

Start talking about sex, awkward as it may be.

“Find a safe space to explore and expand your comfort zone. This could be with yourself at home in the mirror saying words that make you uncomfortable, a trusted friend, a course that offers a safe space to openly talk about sex” — or the Wellness Centre on campus (which supplies free condoms and lube). “It takes an act of courage to open this sort of dialogue and combat shame; the more you talk about it and push past the discomfort, the easier it gets,” Nantz explained.

Getting to yes

When talking to a partner, consent is the first thing to discuss. One in three women in Canada will experience sexual assault in their lifetime; learning about consent is more important than ever.

Consent doesn’t have to be verbal (and neither does revoking it), but talking to your partner helps you better understand and respect their boundaries. If you are ever sexually assaulted, get to safety and explore your options, which can include going to the hospital to gather medical evidence for filing a report (the university website details other courses of action).

But consent goes beyond a “yes” or “no” — it’s about discovering what makes sex great for you and asking for it. “Negotiate the sex you want to be having!” says Nantz.

Safe sex

When it comes to practicing sex safely, knowledge is the key.

“Research STIs, practice safer sex, get tested, and learn how to share your status with partners,” said Nantz.

“STIs are highly stigmatized and getting tested and talking about it can bring up a lot of fear and shame for folks.

The best way to combat that shame is to talk openly and honestly about it and to be as informed as possible.”

A visit to Student Health Services is the best time to settle any uncertainties — and to speak to a doctor about birth control options, which could mean taking a daily pill, installing an intrauterine device, or simply using condoms (the only option that doubles as protection against STIs).


Affection And Romance Most Popular Forms Of Sexual Behavior, Says New US Study

Affection And Romance Most Popular Forms Of Sexual Behavior, Says New US Study

The information gathered showed that many of the volunteers who took part in the survey had engaged in a wide variety of sexual behaviors. The study also shared the type of relationships they were in within the last year, which included being in a monogamous/open relationship or they hadn’t discussed the setup of intimacy.

The information gathered showed that many of the volunteers who took part in the survey had engaged in a wide variety of sexual behaviors. The study also shared the type of relationships they were in within the last year, which included being in a monogamous/open relationship or they hadn’t discussed the setup of intimacy.

“These data highlight opportunities for couples to talk more openly with one another about their sexual desires and interests,” said Herbenick. “Together they may find new ways of being romantic or sexual with one another, enhancing both their sexual satisfaction and relationship happiness.”

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